Once upon a time, there was a little girl, full of dreams. This little girl dreamt she would grow up to be a ballerina. And that when she was old, around 25, she would get married to prince charming - of course! Then she would have 2 children, the first would be a girl, when she was 27. And then a boy when she was 29. They would be a beautiful family, living in a nice big house with a garden and a dog. And they would live happily ever after.
Well, this little girl is now 30 years old. She is not a ballerina. She's also not married and has no kids.
So the inevitable question is, what went wrong?
I'll tell you what. Everything and nothing!!!
It's funny to stop and think back to what we idealized our lives would be like when we were younger and now look at where we are. I was way off in my predictions. Good thing I didn't decide to be a psychic or an astrologer. That would have been catastrophic.
Nevertheless, looking back at those memories also makes me wonder if I have made the right choices and worse, brings up all kinds of doubts and questions.
I think we all have had numerous existential crises throughout our lives, but for some reason this one now, feels a bit more serious. All of the sudden you start hearing terms like biological clock and there is some kind of 'invisible' pressure. Well, not so invisible. Let's think about it. You find yourself having to buy 5 different fancy dresses per year due to all the weddings you need to attend. People are off to do MBA's, getting promotions and talking about their ambitious career plans. You're almost becoming an expert on brands of diapers. The pictures on your friend's facebook pages are no longer a bunch of drunks making total fools out of themselves, but people in suits and lots of cute laughing babies!
And here you are. 30 something years old, still kinda lost and absolutely completely clueless about what you really want.
Is that just me???
Well, I didn't think so. That's why I decided to start this blog. Let's share our doubts and anxieties!!!!
I know I have a few friends 'suffering' from the same problems, and I suspect there are more of us out there.
Maybe we can learn from each other.
If not, at least we can laugh about it together!!! :-)
Rs, loved it!
ReplyDeleteI know another little girl who also dreamed to be a ballerina, have kids and a happy family before she would turn 30 (or better saying, when she would be still young and beatiful, rs).
That girl turned 30 being "just married" (ufa!) but still shares with you the lost feelings... You are not the only one my dear... the lost feelings are just about different subjects (or not) and in a way or another they will be always there.
We will always ask if we are doing what we like to do, if it is time to start something completely new, if you are going to get married (or if your marriage will be for ever), if you will have kids (or maybe another one), if you are getting old (yes, you are, I can guarantee!), if you need to change the route...
But our challenge is to make all this turn in our favor. To make a good balance of positives and negatives, trying always to increase the positive side, and yes share it with the others... so you know you are not the only one!
Cheers!
isn't that the crisis we all have?
ReplyDeleteI think we expect things to be sorted out to by the time we're 30, but is life ever going to be sorted out?
Not really, hehehe
Agnera!!! Great... no idea why I checked out my hotmail email account that I have not opened for at least 2 years... but when I saw this... i was worth it... what I can add to all that... MBA is just another ground breaking gigantic question mark to add to our early 30's.
ReplyDeleteDrizon, I can't agree with you on that... I eally hope one day we will all be able to just sit back and relax... everything sorted out... everything going as planned... is it possible? hope so...
Dila!
Not just you! :) Keep writing! Beijooo!
ReplyDeleteI would say I don't share the same problems! I share the same benefits as you do! It would be great to have followed a certain path we have imagined fifteen/ten years ago! But the present is a reflex of what has made us comfortable in the past!
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